In the comments in the article on GAP, one of the posts recommends that people visit a Website http:://www.imnotsorry.net in order to open their minds to the pro-choice movement.
The point of INS is apparently to combat the emotional charge of women who have publicly lamented their choice to have abortions. By declaring that they are unashamed, the contributors hope to encourage other women to make decisions without having their minds clouded by notions such as...well...shame. Thus, the reader can cycle through page after page of younger women saying how they are not sorry that they had abortions because now they can pursue careers and older women saying they are not sorry they had abortions because they give more attention to the children they already have.
It isn't a very professional looking Website--I say this not to attack it, but to indicate that the autobiographical accounts of abortions on the site are perhaps not the most reliable sources. Indeed, it seems to me that many of the stories could have been written by pro-lifers trying to sabotage the site's purpose.
Anyway, if Al has linked to the equivalent of a textual stimulant, then I think I'm pointing you towards a digital depressant. Click below to see some excerpts.
I made a choice to end two pregnancies. I made a choice to continue to give my two sons the time and attention that they deserve. I made a choice to not burden our family financially. I made a choice to spend more time with my husband and to help our relationship, as not only parents, but as lifetime partners, flourish.
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She found out she was pregnant with me when she was sixteen. She had a tough decision to make and doesn’t regret it. She did without and made up for it later, but she saw me doing bigger things with my life.
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I have heard many people say how they feel about it and very recently a male friend told me that married people don’t get abortions--just lower class teenagers who are irresponsible. His statement is completely ridiculous and unfounded. As a married upper middle class woman I know for a fact that the right to choose has no classes, no income guidelines and is not reserved for the unmarried.
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He is against abortion. But I had made my mind up and for him not to call me a "killer" I decided to tell him after I had my abortion that I miscarried due to stress.
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There was no way I was going to have that child. My partner already had 4 kids and a horrible relationship with his ex-wife. I was not willing to toss my dreams aside so I could raise an unplanned child in that environment. Besides, I reasoned that I had worked too hard to get where I was in my life, and I didn't want to just throw that away. I decided that I would terminate the preganancy [sic]... It was a long and relatively silent drive. I could feel the fetus moving inside me, kicking me.
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Afterward, the three of us drove home in the sunshine and my mother bought matching necklaces for us, so that we would always remember what we had gone through as a family.
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This was something I was doing for myself, not him.
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Last night I dreamed for the first time of the baby I might have had. It was a happy dream.
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My boyfriend and I were put in a room and we watched a 15 minute video about the medical abortion- how it works, what to expect, what helps and showed these glowing woman [sic] giving testimonials like, "I even cooked dinner afterwards!" which I thought was a little too much.
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It is 20 years later. While I have never regretted the abortion I certainly shed a few tears and thought about it a few times when I was not conceiving in my early 30’s. It was more like remembering the loss of someone I had loved, but knew that my life was better for having moved on while still wondering how it might have been if I hadn’t.
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My second abortion was almost 14 months ago. I was on the pill once again, only I don't know what caused it to fail this time.
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